Sunday, November 8, 2020

Healing the Divide - Poems of Kindness and Connection

Recently I read Healing the Divide - Poems of Kindness and Connection which is edited by James Crews. 


There are quite a few poems in this book that I liked or that I wanted to read multiple times. Below are some of them. 

REVISIT

Carol Cone

What do you see when
your baby comes home at fifty?
Do you remember the child
who couldn't sleep a single night
for two endless years
who wouldn't eat most foods
who pushed your hugs away
who gave kisses to no one?


Slowly, the years passed without
a hug, a visit, a Christmas card, yet
whatever brought the epiphany - 
his father's death, a mid-life crisis
or realization that half a life
had passed him by, much too fast - 

he came home at fifty,
erasing years of separation.
Just a visit, an experiment,
still prickly but ready to talk,
to reach out an inch or two 
perhaps to build a fragile bridge
across those missing years.

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SMALL KINDNESSES

Danusha Laméris 

I’ve been thinking about the way, when you walk 
down a crowded aisle, people pull in their legs 
to let you by. Or how strangers still say “bless you” 
when someone sneezes, a leftover 
from the Bubonic plague. “Don’t die,” we are saying. 
And sometimes, when you spill lemons 
from your grocery bag, someone else will help you 
pick them up. Mostly, we don’t want to harm each other. 
We want to be handed our cup of coffee hot, 
and to say thank you to the person handing it. To smile 
at them and for them to smile back. For the waitress 
to call us honey when she sets down the bowl of clam chowder, 
and for the driver in the red pick-up truck to let us pass. 
We have so little of each other, now. So far 
from tribe and fire. Only these brief moments of exchange. 
What if they are the true dwelling of the holy, these 
fleeting temples we make together when we say, “Here, 
have my seat,” “Go ahead — you first,” “I like your hat.”

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I CONFESS

Alison Luterman

I stalked her 
in the grocery store: her crown 
of snowy braids held in place by a great silver clip, 
her erect bearing, radiating tenderness, 
watching the way she placed yogurt and avocados in her basket, 
beaming peace like the North Star. 
I wanted to ask, "What aisle did you find 
your serenity in, do you know 
how to be married for fifty years or how to live alone, 
excuse me for interrupting, but you seem to possess 
some knowledge that makes the earth turn and burn on its axis—" 
But we don’t request such things from strangers 
nowadays. So I said, "I love your hair."

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WAVING GOODBYE

Wesley McNair


Why, when we say goodbye 
at the end of an evening, do we deny 
we are saying it at all, as in We’ll 
be seeing you, or I’ll call, or Stop in, 
somebody’s always at home? Meanwhile, our friends, 
telling us the same things, go on disappearing 
beyond the porch light into the space 
which except for a moment here or there 
is always between us, no matter what we do. 
Waving goodbye, of course, is what happens 
when the space gets too large 
for words—a gesture so innocent 
and lonely, it could make a person weep 
for days. Think of the hundreds of unknown 
voyagers in the old, fluttering newsreel 
patting and stroking the growing distance 
between their nameless ship and the port 
they are leaving, as if to promise I’ll always 
remember, and just as urgently, Always 
remember me. Is it loneliness, too, 
that makes the neighbor down the road lift two 
fingers up from his steering wheel as he passes 
day after day on his way to work in the hello 
that turns into goodbye? What can our own raised 
fingers do for him, locked in his masculine 
purposes and speeding away inside the glass? 
How can our waving wipe away the reflex 
so deep in the woman next door to smile 
and wave on her way into her house with the mail, 
we’ll never know if she is happy 
or sad or lost? It can’t. Yet in that moment 
before she and all the others and we ourselves 
turn back to our disparate lives, how 
extraordinary it is that we make this small flag 
with our hands to show the closeness we wish for 
in spite of what pulls us apart again 
and again: the porch light snapping off, 
the car picking its way down the road through the dark.

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EVERYDAY GRACE

Stella Nesanovich

It can happen like that: 
meeting at the market, 
buying tires amid the smell 
of rubber, the grating sound 
of jack hammers and drills, 
anywhere we share stories, 
and grace flows between us. 

The tire center waiting room 
becomes a healing place 
as one speaks of her husband's 
heart valve replacement, bedsores 
from complications. A man 
speaks of multiple surgeries, 
notes his false appearance 
as strong and healthy. 

I share my sister's death 
from breast cancer, her 
youngest only seven. 
A woman rises, gives 
her name, Mrs. Henry, 
then takes my hand. 
Suddenly an ordinary day 
becomes holy ground.

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FOR YOU I'LL FLY

Carmen Tafolla

The earth below us shifts
and the joints of houses ache
with hairline fractures that grow
into faultlines on the walls.

The motors burn out
first the fan and then the garbage disposal,
on my way out the door
to job or bank or nursing home.
The only two burners still lighting weakly
on the stovetop flicker at me.

Things fall apart
sometimes people too 
as crisis-after-crisis beats us down.
Deaths and Close-to-deaths
Loss and Deeper loss.

You can no longer swallow, 
or pronounce.
You reach a hand of bones
to lift my hand to your lips.
Your eyes catch my eyes with kindness,
carry the message as softly as you can 
against this harsh sky.

The song you heard playing before I did,
Por Ti Volare, I recognize.
You sang a million times, before this disease.
I didn't know the English title
was  Time to Say Goodbye.
You pull a shining smile out of this stiff
Parkinson's mask
and gently
release me

1 comment:

Rita said...

OMGoodness! These brought tears to my eyes.
We need this so much--these moments of love and connection.
Thanks, Ann! :)